The Prophet pbuh said, “The best of you is the best to his family and I am the best amongst you to my family”. (Tirmidhi, IbnMaajah)
Family is the cradle of all human societies /civilizations. It’s a strange fact that we never get to choose a family for us, but are ever grateful to the One Who bestowed us with it. It’s because every family is bound to care and get care by each other. Few express their concern, few don’t but there is an unbreakable bond that binds us together, a healthy relation always build on understanding, trust and respect that gives one a sense of protection and support. Being a family member, so person’s prime responsibility is to concern about them. Family integrity and unity is very important. The aim and purpose play the key role to shape the family bonding. Obiviously, family is family, any number of friends can’t provide what a family does. So our first and foremost concern is our family which Qur’an has mentioned us to know that if any good knowledge is bestowed upon us then it should be shared or discussed with our family, following passage of the Qur’an commands us to be more anxious about our family.
“And warn, [O Muhammad], your closest kindred.
And be kind and humble (lower your wing) to those who follow you of the believers.
And if they disobey you, then say, “Indeed, I am disassociated from what you are doing.
And rely upon the Exalted in Might, the Merciful”. (26 : 14 -17)
“When (this verse) was revealed to him:” Warn your nearest kinsmen.” the Messenger of Allah pbuh said: O people of Quraish, buy yourselves from Allah, I cannot avail you at all against Allah; O sons of Abd al-’Muttalib. I cannot avail you at all against Allah; O Abbas b. ‘Abd al-’ Muttalib, I cannot avail you at all against Allah; O Safiya (aunt of the Messenger of Allah), I cannot avail you at all against Allah; O Fatima, daughter of Muhammad, ask me whatever you like, but I cannot avail you at all against Allah. (Sahih Muslim)
Here, in the above verse Prophet Muhammad pbuh was told to warn their close family members. No doubt Prophet Muhammad pbuh gave lot of concern and priority to his family. And make sure that they get the right message of Islam. Prophet Muhammad was so distressed that Allah says in the Qur’an: “You will It may be that you (O Muhammad pbuh are going to kill yourself with grief, that they do not become believers [in your Risalah (Messengership) and in your Message of Islamic Monotheism]”. (Qur’an 26: 3)
Any advice will be effective if one has a good and sound relations with their family member. Just like a farmer needs to moist the soil before planting a seed, so we should be kind and soft hearted tpwards them, as well demonstrate it by our actions. The point to keep in mind here is to never take our fsmily and relative for granted. The best way is to express yourself. The more you are expressive the more one will get to know each other’s problem. And lack of communication between them will make the wall of misunderstanding further. So before advising and warning our family member, we must care them and show our concern to them so they would accept our advice without a second thought.
If they don’t agree, so they shouldn’t have any grudges against them as it’s our duty and responsibility. But they should continue to perform their mission with complete trust in that Being Who is Mighty as well as Merciful. He is Mighty and, therefore, anybody enjoying His support, cannot be overcome by any other power; He is Merciful and, therefore, He will not let go waste the sacrifices and efforts of the one who struggles for the sake of raising His Word in the world. Such a consoling verse ! We often see these things in our daily lives. How the family’s views are different from each other and many times we pay no heed to the words of advice due to superiority complex or just my family say so we dont agree. Finally, put our trust in Him Who is Immensely Mighty, Most Compassionate.