Prophet Mohammad pbuh is the perfect role model for mankind. Allah stated in the Quran Surah Ahzaab..
“There has certainly been for you in the Messenger of Allah an excellent pattern for anyone whose hope is in Allah and the Last Day and [who] remembers Allah often”. (33:2)
Human perfection has many levels. The greater the amount of self-discipline and effort on the part of the individual, the higher the level of perfection that he would attain. It’s difficult to explain Prophet’s beautiful qualities in one attempt but I will try to describe some manners of the Prophet that are shocking for us, interesting for the youth, and amazing for those who grew up in modern cultures.
Piety and Taqwa (Fear and love of Allah), Akhlaq (conduct, Morality), Islamic Behaviour, Good Conduct, Motarality, Good Manners, Islamic Etiquett. Patience, Simplicity and humbleness, Forgiveness, Generosity, Courage and bravery these virtues made prophet pbuh a perfect human being.
Taqwa (Fear and love of Allah): Once he was given a comfortable bed. That night he missed the *tahajjud* night prayer because he overslept. In the morning he asked that bed to be removed because it was too comfortable to wake up for the prayer. He did not prefer the comfort, the wealth; he preferred the humble way. Allah’s beloved Messenger would constantly ask for Allah’s forgiveness. Narrated Abu Huraira: I heard Allah’s Apostle saying.” By Allah! I ask for forgiveness from Allah and turn to Him in repentance more than seventy times a day.”
Akhlâq :i.e., the code of conduct, the manners of a person, is a social phenomenon; it occurs in interpersonal relationships in the society. When we study the code of conduct of the Prophet, we learn about his treatment of people around him. That is very important for us because it will be an example for us to follow.
How was the akhlâq of our beloved Prophet? The Mother of the believers, Hadrat Aisha was asked this question. Her response was very brief, but effective: “His akhlâq was the Qur’an.”
Morality :would look after the widows and protect the orphans. He was merciful towards them. He would not get angry or seek revenge for himself, yet he would get angry if an order of Allah is violated. For instance, when Mecca was conquered, he was in a position to take revenge, yet he forgave them all. Some commanders of army units had made some statements that they would take revenge from those who had inflicted major losses on Muslims. The Prophet removed them from their positions to prevent such actions.
He turned to the Meccans who were shivering out of the fear of their ends and asked: “What do you expect from me?” He implied: “You have tried to prevent me from conveying the message of Allah for so many years. You sent armies on me. You had fights with me. What shall I do to you? What do you expect me to do to you?” He forgave them all. That was the conduct of the Prophet in general.
He was attacked in Taif. People of Taif stoned him and chased him out of the town. His heels got wounded. A man in an orchard house called the Prophet in. He rested there for a while. The archangel Gabriel arrived and said, “O Prophet of Allah, I could destroy this town if you wish.”
The Prophet did not want any harm on people. His companions would request: “O Prophet of Allah. The pagans are giving us a hard time. Could you curse on them?” He would refuse:
“I am not a Prophet who curses people. I have been sent as a Prophet of mercy. Be patient. The nations that lived before had to deal with more severe troubles than you are subject to. You be patient.”
He never wished anything bad for anybody. This is one of the most important characteristics of Prophet Muhammad.
Good Manners: Zayd RA was the servant of Prophet Muhammad. He said: “I served about twenty years to the Prophet. He never abused me, nor did he question me for the things I did or failed to do.” The Prophet was very gentle and soft to his servant. As a matter of fact, Zayd RA was given to him as a young slave man. The father of the young man found him and wanted to pay the ransom of freedom to the Prophet to take his son back. The Prophet told the father: “Ask him. He is free to go. I do not want any money to let him go. The young slave chose to stay with the Prophet: “O Prophet of Allah, I would like to stay with you.” The father of the young man insisted that the Prophet send the child to his tribe. The Prophet said: ” I cannot tell him to leave if he chooses to stay with me.” Well, it was a good decision on behalf of Zayd RA. He served the Prophet. That was the good manners of the Prophet.
Simplicity and Humbleness : Prophet used to sleep on an old piece of rag. His life was so simple and humble that his wives had a hard time with the simplicity. There were little cells for the wives of the Prophet by theMasjid of the Prophet. When the Massaged was enlarged during the time of Umayyads, these little cells were demolished. The companions wept: “We wish that everybody saw these rooms to infer how simple a life the Prophet lived.”
These rooms had about one yard width and three yards length. You could hardly fit a bed in them. A person could fit well in there, but two persons would not. These were the size of the rooms. The wives had a hard time with the simplicity.
Once Hadrat Omar RA visited the Prophet. He saw the marks of a straw mat on him. There was a clay pot with water and a handful of barley next to him. That was how the Prophet lived. Having seen that, Hadrat Omar sobbed. He also lived in the same society, yet what he had seen must have been below the average life standard of that time. That made Hadrat Omar Ra cry.
The Prophet had established the Islamic State, and he was the president. He would receive ambassadors from neighboring countries, yet he maintained his simple life style. He had the means for a better living because the Muslim land was expanding and goods had been brought to him. The Prophet lived like a slave. He never hurt anybody. He would not eat while leaning on something. He was heard saying, “If I had gold as much as the mountain Uhud, I would spend it all for Allah.”
Islamic Behaviour : The Prophet says, “If a person’s mother or father is alive, and if a person fails to earn paradise in getting their blessings, it is a shame.” The parents must be respected and served.
In another hadith the Prophet said: “If a person has his parents look at him with love and affection, he would receive rewards as though he freed a slave for every look he receives.” The companions asked: “O Prophet of Allah! What if they look at him or her many times, for instance 360 times?”
The Prophet responded: “Allahu akbar! If they look at him 360 times, Almighty Allah grants the person the rewards of freeing 360 slaves.”
This also means a recommendation for children to respect and serve their parents. In return, the parents have responsibilities towards their children: “Give your children beautiful names, raise them with the best manners, the manners of the Qur’an and with the love of the Prophet.”
“Teach your children how to read and write, how to use arms (weapons) and how to swim.” These are some of the recommendations of the Prophet.
If the parents fail to fulfill their responsibilities, their children will have claims on them on the Day of Judgment. That is why the parents must fulfill their responsibilities, and children must respect and serve their parents. These are the recommendations regulating part of human relationships.
The brotherhood and love : for one another for the sake of Allah are encouraged and practiced by the Prophet.
Then there are the rights of neighbors. The Prophet said: “Angel Gabriel came to me and emphasized the importance of the neighborliness so much that I thought Almighty Allah would make the neighbors to be the heirs of a person.”
The relations with neighbors are at three levels:
1. You have to carry out responsibilities towards your neighbor.
The Prophet recommends: “Do not raise your build above the neighbors, so that it does not block the air circulation for the neighbor.” We have to watch for our neighbor and offer him some of what we cooked for ourselves.
2. If the neighbor is a Muslim, then there are the rights of the neighbor and rights of a Muslim brother.
3. If the neighbor is a relative, his rights are tripled. They have to get along well.
Forgiveness : Once the Prophet was :asked: “What is a good character, O Prophet of Allah?” He responded:
“You forgive one who does injustice to you; you give one who does not give to you, and you keep your ties with one who cuts off the ties.”
What we conclude from this hadith is that the good code of conduct is not something done in return to some favor, but it is doing good without expecting anything. It is for the consent of Allah. Even if a person receives bad treatment from somebody, he should continue doing good things for that individual.
ISLAMIC Teachings : There is another saying of the Prophet: “A calamity or something bad that befalls on a person is a grace from Allah. One fails to understand this fact is not a true believer.” That is how the Prophet looked at the events–it is not how the way we see things. When a person gets some illness, he should believe that it is his destiny and be patient. That would earn him rewards. Calamities, too, are part of the destiny that Allah prescribed for us.
Generous : Generosity is another hallmark of the personality of Muhammad pbuh. He spent all the wealth in the way of Allah: When he was about to die, he felt that there were about three dirhams of money in the house. He asked them to give it away. He would say, “The prophets would not leave any material things as inheritance.” when Prophet Mohammed (PBUH) died, there was not enough money to buy oil for a lamp, his wife (Ayesha Siddiqa[Radi Allahu-ta’ala unha]) mortgaged his battle shield to buy oil.
The akhlâq of the Prophet had no match. It was excellent and unmatchable. There are verses in the Qur’an about the akhlâq of the Prophet. For instance, at the end of Surah Tawbah there is the following verse:
There has certainly come to you a Messenger from among yourselves. Grievous to him is what you suffer; [he is] concerned over you and to the believers is kind and merciful. (9:128)