The Prophet was the epitome of good character and personal integrity. Prophet Muhammad pbuh and Mothers of the believers lived a most simple, austere and modest life. Prophet Muhammad pbuh dealt justly with his wives. He loved them and showed his feelings towards them. He was also patient and loyal with them. His actions were arising from sense of responsibility and because Allah the almighty created him righteous and equitable by nature.
During the day he was the busiest man, as he performed his duties in many roles all at once as head of state, chief justice, commander-in-chief, arbitrator, instructor and family man. He was the most devoted man at night. He used to spend one- to two-thirds of every night in prayer and meditation. Even though the Prophet pbuh treated his wives with perfect equity in what he could control, by giving them respect and equal rights and sharing the days that they ought to have. Even when he was the virtual ruler of Arabia, Prophet pbuh and his family used to go without meal for several days. The Mothers of the believers never complained, even after revealing (below verses) these verses, Allah said on behalf of Prophet pbuh that if your wives want wordly desire and things then I will provide you and separate you gracefully but no one was ready to separate from Muhammad pbuh. This was the attachment of the mother of the believers with Prophet pbuh.
O Prophet, say to your wives, “If you should desire the worldly life and its adornment, then come, I will provide for you and give you a gracious release. (Quran 33:28)
But if you should desire Allah and His Messenger and the home of the Hereafter – then indeed, Allah has prepared for the doers of good among you a great reward.”(Quran 33:29)
Prophet pbuh apologized to Allah the almighty that he could not be equitable in what he could not control; meaning, the feelings in his heart. ‘A’isha r.a reported that the Prophet of Allah pbuh used to treat his wives equally, and say: “Oh Allah, this is how I divide what I can control. O Allah, do not blame me for what you control and I cannot control.” (Abu Dawoud )” said “Prophet Muhammad meant what is in his heart.” And it was said that it is love and cordiality as interpreted by at-Tirmidhi. What is meant, is that Allah the almighty controls our feelings and hearts and made the love of A’isha r.a greater in the heart of the Prophet pbuh than the love of any other woman. Indeed, he could not control that. It’s a natural feeling and human have no control over it. In spite of it Prophet pbuh was constant in his equitable treatment of his wives and loyal towards his wives. Indeed it was the great honour and prestige to be wife of Prophet Muhammed pbuh. Prophet pbuh was Ideal husband Ideal father Ideal family man. However Prophet pbuh stressed the importance of dealing justly with wives because otherwise on the Day of Judgment the man will be severely punished. And He gave instruction Nation (Ummah) to treat well with woman.
Allah’s Messenger pbuh said, “O `Abdullah! Have I not been informed (correctly) that you fast all the day and stand (pray) in prayer all night?” I said, “Yes, O Allah’s Messenger pbuh ” He said, “Do not do that! Observe the fast sometimes and also leave them (the fast) at other times; stand up for the prayer at night and also sleep at night. Your body has a right over you, your eyes have a right over you and your wife has a right over you.” (Sahih Bukhari)